So these last few weeks have been CRAZY here at the Hartley house. I haven't been much in the mood for blogging, but I know if I put it off much longer I will be so far behind that I might just quit...and I know how sad you all would be if that happened. Sooo here we go!
Last thursday Ky had his first and last day of preschool. Ky has really been excited to start school. Ever since Kam started he has been asking if he can go to school. So on his day we got him all dressed and ready to go. I took him into his class, helped him hang up his backpack and wash his hands and he sat down to do some puzzles. "Great" I thought, "that went well". I then made a quick shopping trip with my friend Amy and we were LOVING shopping with just two small children instead of the 6 we would have if all of our kids were there. It was great. So I went to pick KyKy up from school and asked the assistant how he did. She looked at me and said "Not good". WHAT!! Then she proceeded to tell me that Ky was all over the place wouldn't listen, that he would run away, and when the teachers would go after him he would run faster and laugh. She almost looked annoyed. Now I would completly understand if my Ky was just a normal, naughty little kid that was just being a brat, but Ky is a special education student in that class. He has developmental delays and is possibly on the autism spectrum. Our school district intagrates the special ed kids in to "normal" preschool to help them learn how to behave and adapt in day to day life. I know my kid isn't easy, but to tell a mom that thier disabled child was "bad" just didn't sit well with me. So I did something that I normaly WOULD NOT do. I went to the special ed department and caused a stink. I was VERY polite (I actually cried), but I told them that I was not comfortable with Ky going to that particular preschool. He had AMAZING teachers last year but because we moved they put us into a different school (even though is other school is less than 5 min away!), I asked if he could go back there because he made such great progress while he was there. Well the details are still in the works but it looks like Ky will be able to switch schools!!! So long story short, here are a couple of pictures of Ky's first and last day of preschool. Hopefully soon we will have more pictures of his SECOND first day...and hopefully it will go much smoother!
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I still cant believe she said that! I am sure it will all get worked out and we can continue are shopping trips with two...not six! You are a good mom and you gotta stand up for what you feel is best for Ky!
Oh man; I am sorry she said that to you. You mentioned that on the A&W drive I think. That is terrible to say, even if it did happen. Good for you to go talk to the department - it wasn't a 'stink', it was you being concerned about Ky. You are amazing; I don't know how you do all that you do. Ky is darling!
What shoddy sort of "educator" tells a special ed parent that their preschool kid is "BAD" for doing exactly what you expect special ed kids to do on their first day in a new environment?????
Good for you! Ky is a miracle! and he's lucky to have parents who are as on top of his education as you are. And it wasn't a "stink" -- you were advocating for your boy when no one else could or would. Teachers like that can be so detrimental to spec. ed kid's academic AND emotional development -- and Ky is too sweet to risk anyone treating him that way.
Way to go, Wonder Mom!
You're a super mom Dest! You did just exactly what you should have. There's no point in prolonging a bad situation, or trying to educate that teacher at Ky's expense when there's a perfect option right down the street! I hope that if I'm ever in that situation I have the courage that you did to do what's right for my child.
Good job at standing up for your kid....I'm wondering if I need to do something similar with Dalan. I'm going to volunteer in his classroom to see what is going on first, but if school is as bad as he says, I might just pull him out and do homeschool. I don't know what to do. Anyway, thanks for your example of courage.
Is that really Ky in those picturs?! He is so big! We've really got to see you guys soon before our kids are all grown up!
Dest -
Been there done that with Nick! Stick to your guns - you know what is best for your child. He will be just fine with a good mom like you! Hang in there and call if you ever need a listening ear. LOVE YA
Cari
I'm so impressed with you! You are a great mom... You take after your mom! Way to go! I can't believe how big Ky looks! Wow... he looks so grown up!
I read all the comments, and I totally agree. You did the right thing, and Ky Ky will get the idea about school. He was probably so excitd. It was just one day, I know there are fun and productive days to come, he does not need to be in a class with a "frazzled teacher"
I love you guys...Grams
Destenee:
I really love you and love reading your blog! Your boys are all so precious and I agree wholeheartedly with all the other posts here that you are an amazing mother. Thanks for your comment on my blog, you're too sweet. I read your every post but am not as good at commenting! ;) We miss you here in Vegas Dest!
Kelly
Des- never question sticking up for your kids. You are their mom and you will always know what is best for them. That teacher was obviously not the right one for Ky and she is the one who is missing out on a wonderful kid. Good luck with the second first day of school.
You sure are an amazing mom. That teacher is a stinker!
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